The think-feel-do cycle displays the cycle of actions starting with the event, after-thoughts, feelings about the event, and actions effected by the event...which therefore create a new event.
The PowerPoint explained actions through perspective of the parent and the child. A child only witnesses a parent's actions, they do not know what emotions their parent has, or the thoughts they had regarding the event that took place. A child will then react to these actions with their thoughts, emotions, and their actions later on. The problem with this cycle is that parents may have good intentions but their actions don't display them, or the parents let their emotions get the best of them in a heated moment, and the child will hold onto that action.
For example, if a child never receives any positive reinforcement when he gets a good grade on a test or scores a goal at his soccer game, he might not think his accomplishments are that great, so he may not try as hard in school to get good grades. But when parents give attention when their child has done something wrong, they're enforcing negative expectations (not letting a child poor their own milk because they are only going to spill it). Parents that only focus on mistakes, promote lack of self-esteem and lower the confidence of their child. Their thoughts might be...If I do bad things my parents give me attention, so maybe I should continue getting into trouble.
If a parent notices patterns such as these, they should examine their actions around their child. How are they reacting when something exciting happens? How are they acting during down time at home? Do they separate themselves from the child, or interact with them? These can be indicators of whether or not your child is receiving enough attention.
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