Preparation for Marriage

In class we covered a PowerPoint Presentation that spoke volumes to me called, "How To Avoid Marrying a Jerk". In the presentation it talks about the "Relationship Attachment Model". The R.A.M is a graph of five factors in a relationship that each build upon each other :




Know, Trust, Rely, Commit, Touch

Each of these factors make up human attachment.
First you know someone, then you can build trust, and then rely upon them, commit to them, and then when you are committed to each other, you show appropriate levels of physical affection.

For example: You would not engage in physical intimacy with someone that you are not committed to. The R.A.M describes physical intimacy as a bonding agent, that "binds couples together". If you were to participate in such acts before you get to know someone, trust them, rely upon them and commit to them, it makes your relationship unstable and there will be emotional disorder.